Welcome, Mama g.
I don't know that there's any easy way to quit smoking. Quitting is tough. It takes time, and it certainly takes the willingness to walk through the fire.
I've used the patch on both my quit attempts. The first time for 3 months, and this time for a couple of weeks... before abandoning it.
The patch made the first little while easier in terms of physical withdrawal. On the other hand, I ended up going through physical withdrawal for a long time... just to a lesser degree. This time I ended up getting off the patch because it was causing me to have heart palpitations, and the result was that I got through the physical withdrawal much more quickly.
But the physical withdrawal, in many ways, isn't the worst of it. The psychological withdrawal is very challenging for most people, and it can take several months to resolve.
The 'trick' to quitting is a good attitude. A determination to succeed no matter how great the discomfort, no matter how long the process. If the door is closed, if smoking isn't an option no matter what happens... then you'll probably find that there's not as much discomfort as there would be if your quit is "conditional". Those who determine to stay quit... "unless it gets too bad"... usually go back smoking. Keeping that door open just a crack... actually 'causes' the withdrawal to get worse.
Whatever method you use... patch, chantix, etc.... know that there's no magic bullet. Quitting is going to be a challenge that you'll have to take a day at a time (or a few minutes at a time, sometimes)... and while you will have good days, you'll also have a lot of bad days. And the process will likely last quite a while before you're really comfortable as a non-smoker.
There are exceptions, but not many, and you can't count on being one of them.
If your attitude is "no matter what", the pain of making this core change will be minimal. That I truly believe.
Good luck! :)
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/6/2007
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 63
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,583
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $582.75
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 10 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 47 [B]Seconds:[/B] 3